Forgivness is a lesson best learned by example.

13 years went by without a hitch, I as the mother of the teen has been there and seen that I also held a grudge against someone that wronged me and I held that grudge for nearly all 13 years. I as a christian and a mother know that this is not a good example to show my children and as my teen son reminds me that it is important to be a good christian. I saw the person today that I have held a grudge against and even though it was hard and I was reluctant to do so I had to be the bigger person. I ask her if she was who I thought she was she hesitantly said yes I then held out my hand and shook her hand and said I forgive you I will hold no more grudges against you it is over and done. She tried to tell me that she was not the one who did it I simply said you did they proved it that you did but it does not matter I will hold no grudges I forgive you just do not deny it uphold it I forgive you it does not matter anymore I have grown and it is time for you to as well and I left it at that. I did this with the teen standing right there he knows most of this story and he was shocked to see that I did that he says "Mom why did you do that?" I said to him it was time to forgive her for what she did I can not hold grudges for all of my life and yours sometimes it is time to let go and it is right that i did this because it is what the bible and God would want me to do. He said you are right and I understand. This was music to my ears because it means he understood the lesson that was in the situation today. I am truly blessed with this boy because even when he drives me nuts he also lightens my heart daily and I love him.